One of the most difficult aspects of leaving an emotionally abusive person is there is often no closure. Few people really understand what it’s like to survive a psychological abuser.
An abuser may claim they don’t understand your point of view, but they often will never attempt to try. In addition to spending the entire relationship feeling misunderstood and shut down, the survivor of an emotional abuser must pass through a firewall of gaslighting, manipulation and character assassination when they leave.
They may use whatever resources they have to attack you, whether that’s your own friends, family, finances or children. Abusive people may twist reality to make their victims look like abusers and themselves look like the victim..