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How to Tell the People In Your Life About Your ADHD Diagnosis

I remember when I was first diagnosed with ADHD, I didn’t know how to talk about it. I wasn’t sure what to say, and I didn’t know if telling people would change their perception of me. Part of me was worried they wouldn’t believe me, while another part was worried that they’d see me differently or judge me. Ultimately I decided that I needed to tell people about my diagnosis because I needed support and I didn’t want to hide it or carry it alone. I also knew that my ADHD caused behavior that wasn’t fair to others, and I didn’t want my telling others to come off as if I was making excuses or not taking accountability for my actions. If I had to do it all over again, here’s what I’d do.

Before you decide who to tell (and what to tell them), consider the below questions: 

Can I trust this person? Why do I want to tell this person?  What do I hope to get out of telling them?  How do I think they will react to this information?  What is my plan if they don’t respond in a way that feels good?  Are there any risks if I tell this person?

How to Your Friends, Family, or Loved Ones About Your ADHD

I didn’t have the best reaction from some friends — a couple took it as a joke and made jokes about recreationally using my medication, while others didn’t recognize the gravity of it. Over time, my friends have learned a lot more about my ADHD, and are so accommodating and understanding. Sometimes ADHD makes me a bad friend — I miss important things, forget commitments, zone out when they’re talking, or talk too much about myself. When telling a friend, follow this formula: 

1. Find a convenient time to talk, when you won’t be interrupted and you can both speak freely.

2. Tell them your diagnosis, and how it impacts you: “I have ADHD,

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I remember when I was first diagnosed with ADHD, I didn’t know how to talk about it. I wasn’t sure what to say, and I didn’t know if telling people would change their perception of me. Part of me was worried they wouldn’t believe me, while another part was worried that they’d see me differently or judge me. Ultimately I decided that I needed to tell people about my diagnosis because I needed support and I didn’t want to hide it or carry it alone. I also knew that my ADHD caused behavior that wasn’t fair to others, and I didn’t want my telling others to come off as if I was making excuses or not taking accountability for my actions. If I had to do it all over again, here’s what I’d do.
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