They say healing from trauma can only happen in connection with healthy others. Choosing who these others are is tantamount to developing renewed trust in others and more importantly, reclaiming a sense of safety within one’s self.
While blood may be thicker than water, your biological family may not be the ones who can best accompany you on your trauma healing journey.
The good news is, you have the agency to select a chosen family and with that choice comes tremendous strength. One of my favorite Brene Brown quotes, and there are many, is a quote from her Netflix special “The Call To Courage.” She states: “The deal is that you have to be very specific about people whose opinions of you matter.