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Self-Sabotaging in a Relationship: Signs, Causes, & How to Stop It

As humans, we all crave intimacy and social connection. For some people, though, intimacy can be a source of fear and trauma. As a result, that fear might lead to self-sabotaging behaviors that damage or destroy intimate relationships.

If these patterns aren’t addressed and corrected, they can lead to unhealthy relationships, loneliness, and social isolation. While a self-sabotaging relationship cycle can be challenging to break, it is possible to recognize and change these behaviors through in-person or online therapy. Read on to learn how to identify and stop self-sabotage in a relationship.When people self-sabotage, they engage in behaviors that interfere with their well-being or keep them from achieving their long-time goals. In a relationship, self-sabotage can prevent you from having a close connection with your partner. Self-sabotage can be conscious or unconscious.

From the outside perspective, though, the behavior often appears deliberate.“Self-sabotaging is a set of behaviors that are conscious or unconscious which can result in the ending of a relationship. Self-sabotage can come from past experiences that cause a person to be mistrustful of others. With it comes a fear of getting hurt, which might happen if someone stays in a relationship.

Therapy can help a person identify their behavior as self-sabotaging and help them stop it.” While people might self-sabotage relationships for many reasons, the behavior is often rooted in trauma. During childhood, our relationships with caregivers can have a lasting impact on how we relate to others. People with a history of insecure relationships may automatically assume that future ones are doomed to fail. Research backs up the theory that self-sabotage can be a form of

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