When it comes to sex, whether you’re gay, bi or straight, we’ve all been a little brainwashed into believing that there is this thing called “normal.” Here are just a few of the narrow preconceptions that fall into the “normal sex” category: * “Having sex” only means penetration.
Thus, Bill Clinton famously said, “I did not have sex with that woman” (whether he actually believed that or was simply lying). * Penetration is the “gold standard” of sex.
Everything else is just foreplay. * You’re not having real sex if you don’t have an orgasm. * In the gay male community usually you’re either considered to be a “top,” the penetrator, or a “bottom,” the penetrated, or you’re a versatile (can go either way).
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