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The Scientific “Compliment Formula” Can Help You Make New Friends

I would use the technique that always worked on me.One day at lectures, I sat next to her and waited for the right moment. She raised her hand to answer a tricky question from the professor.

I sprung my friendship trap.“Hannah, your bravery is so impressive!” I said. “I never would have put my hand up for a question like that.”“I know! I was scared of getting it right.

But I’m trying to put myself out there more,” Hannah replied. And just like that, we started talking.

We had coffee together in between classes, and later, she invited me to a house party of a friend of hers. Eight years later, we’re still great friends and talk practically every day even though we live 4,000 miles apart.Subconsciously, I’d used what researchers call the

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I would use the technique that always worked on me.One day at lectures, I sat next to her and waited for the right moment. She raised her hand to answer a tricky question from the professor.
A few years ago, when I was in a residential program for my mental health, we had to participate in an exercise where each of us had to compliment another client and all we could respond with was “thank you.” This forced us to sit with the discomfort of a compliment about something we deeply didn’t believe to be true about ourselves. For example, someone would say to me, “Becca, you’re courageous,” and all I was allowed to say back was, “thank you,” all while all the excuses as to why I believe I’m not took over my thoughts.

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