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“Bad Parenting Is Not What They Told Us It Was”

tantrums and scream in their parents’ faces. I hear my own mother’s voice: Only doormat parents let their kids yell at them. If that were my child, I’d spank him silly, and he’d learn how to behave then.

He needs discipline, not a hug.My 10-year-old has ADHD; he’s tired from a long day, and since Focalin cuts his appetite, he’s hungry and doesn’t know it. Any of these reasons could set off a tantrum. Three together almost guarantees one.

I’m not a bad parent. I’m not screwing up. I’m parenting a non-neurotypical child — and pretending otherwise hurts both of us.Maybe, like my 10-year-old, I need some time to calm down.

Also, possibly, a hug.[Get This Free Download: Your Free Guide to Ending Confrontations and Defiance]Kids with ADHD cope with emotional dysregulation: it’s hard for them to moderate and regulate their emotions in ways we’d expect from a neurotypical child. Combined with fatigue and low blood sugar, my son’s control of his big feelings runs off the rails. It’s not surprising he yelled and stomped off.

It would have been surprising if he hadn’t.But like me, you’ve probably spent a lifetime seeing headshakes over kids behaving badly. Maybe, like me, you were a headshaker yourself before you had a child with ADHD. You’ve likely heard those voices I’ve heard, those people sniping behind other parents’ backs: Kids only act like that because their parents let them.

If they stepped up and did their job, she’d learn to behave. It’s her parents’ fault.We are socially conditioned to attribute a child’s negative behavior to parental failure.So when our own kids slip up, we blame ourselves.This social conditioning probably started when we were kids ourselves. If you were the “good kid,” you may have heard your parents

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tantrums and scream in their parents’ faces. I hear my own mother’s voice: Only doormat parents let their kids yell at them. If that were my child, I’d spank him silly, and he’d learn how to behave then.
parents with ADHD on simultaneously managing their symptoms while raising happy, healthy, well-adjusted children.Parenting requires the daily, dependable execution of non-novel, repetitive tasks, a combination that’s kryptonite for adults with core ADHD deficits including fluctuating attention and poor working memory. More broadly, ADHD impacts these core facets of parenting:The charts below highlight critical areas in each of the four childhood developmental stages, plus strategies for caregivers with ADHD to employ for each.[Free Parenting Guide for Moms & Dads with ADHD]The only way to reliably, genuinely care for your child is to practice regular self-care.

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