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“Crime and Punishment and ADHD: When Parents Disagree on Discipline”

Has a crime occurred?From another room, I hear my husband proclaim, “Why is there trash in the car? We have told you a million times. You’re supposed to leave it clean after you drive.”“Just a second – I’m busy,” says our son, who is wrapped up in a critical siege in his videogame.My husband is fuming.

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Live Webinar on December 2: The Power of Family Engagement: How Involved Parents Can Foster a Child’s Self-Advocacy Skills

Not available December 2? Don’t worry. Register now and we’ll send you the replay link to watch at your convenience.Decades of research tell us that a parent’s close bond and engagement with their child leads to academic success.

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Use Responsive Parenting to Reveal the Roots of Behavioral Challenges

responsive parenting.Responsive parenting is this: meeting our children with curiosity and compassion — as opposed to unhelpful, even triggering reactions — in the face of tough behaviors and emotions.Respond instead of react? Sounds great, I can hear you thinking, followed closely by, “How the heck am I supposed to do that?!” The answer lies in reframing your thoughts and beliefs about your child’s behaviors.When we look below the surface of a behavior, we begin to see what our kids really need. That is the root of responding, not reacting.

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“Understanding ADHD: Our Long and Winding Trek to the Summit.”

My husband and son make an annual short climb up Black Butte in central Oregon. Usually, they ascend the little mountain easily — it’s just over 6,000 feet in elevation — and it’s clear skies for miles.Not long ago, however, they found themselves in white-out conditions.

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“It’s Hard Being Different… and Even Harder Being OK with That.”

ADHD and other learning differences, but it wasn’t until this moment that it really hit home for him.So I sat with him and explained it all. I told him that his brain was like a speed tunnel — that it worked faster than other brains, and thus had trouble processing things in a steady, coherent manner.

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“You Are Wonderful!” How Praise Triggers Better Control in the ADHD Brain

ADHD) — and that her brain was different, that she had little control over some of her actions, and that she lacked a pause button — I also understood that perplexing look she’d given me after she’d done something wrong: She genuinely didn’t know why she couldn’t control herself. And she hated what she’d done.

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“The School Incident That Shattered My Heart – and Taught Me How to Discipline with Love.”

big trouble.Was it inevitable? Perhaps. He had dodged that proverbial bullet for years, but he couldn’t escape repercussions this time around.The incident? My son and his little girlfriend Poppy (you know, the one he’s going to marry), confessed to trashing a toilet.Yes, you read that correctly.I’m too horrified to give you all the graphic details, but toilet paper and flooding were involved.

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“Is My ADHD Teen Addicted to Porn?”

Q: “My son, 13, has been diagnosed with ADHD. Lately, I think he’s been looking at pornography on the Internet.

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[Get This Free Download: Sample Schedules for Reliable Family Routines]“Daddy!” she’d say, stomping her foot. “There’s not enough broth in the mug!”“Girl, you better rephrase that in a nicer voice,” I’d say.“Sorry, Daddy.”So she and I had our soup routine down.

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“The Only Parental Expectation That Matters? My Child’s Joy”

[Get This Free Download: 13-Step Guide to Raising a Child with ADHD]While the rest of us were captivated by the chicks, Race’s thoughts lingered on the lone egg. He expressed concern, wondering why it hadn’t hatched with the others, and what would happen if it didn’t.Race’s questions resonated deeply in my heart as I realized how I’d felt many of the same concerns as a parent — concerns about safety, provision, and the future.I thought about how that mama bird might feel, fearful that her baby wouldn’t make it.

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“We’re Raising a Cat in a Dog World”

[Get This Free Download: 13-Step Guide to Raising a Child with ADHD]I’ve used the cat-dog metaphor to describe what it’s like to raise my son, who is gifted with ADHD and autistic PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance). The latter is a term increasingly used to describe autistic children who exhibit extreme resistance to demands and requests, no matter how big or small, even if the demands are of obvious benefit and interest to them.PDA means that, for my son, compliance is impossible.

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“How Water Play Buoyed My Child’s Spirits – and Deepened Our Connection”

emotional outbursts. It was a cycle of anxiety and control that I needed to change. It was time for an intervention.

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“I Can Do It Myself!” How to Support Tweens with ADHD (Who Don’t Want Help)

tweens and teens with ADHD either refuse to ask for help, reject it when it’s offered, or pretend (lie) that they’ve got things covered when they don’t. Some of this is due to their developmental stage.

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“It’s Hard Being the Mother of Electricity. And Also Quite Dazzling.”

[Get This Download: 13 Parenting Strategies for Kids with ADHD]What was wrong with him? I would ask in anger over and over when my super hero refused to contort himself into my imagined mould.It was impossible for my little super hero to slow his current and control his electricity.That was very inconvenient for me. For his teachers.

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“Our Challenge to Change the Language Around ADHD Starts at Home.”

before toasting it, despite being told many times that fat is flammable. Liam tripped the lights, set the toaster on fire, and sent his mother into orbit.

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“My Parents Didn’t Take My ADHD Seriously. Please Don’t Make the Same Mistake.”

ADHD was more of a moral flaw than a medical condition.If experience has taught me anything, it’s that ADHD, if not properly addressed, can lead to a number of issues, including but not limited to substance abuse, anger issues, self-loathing, and other psychological and emotional difficulties.As hard as my youth was for me, I learned some valuable lessons about the meaning of words and the importance of compassion.

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The Secret to Better Behavior? No Punishment at All

major tantrums. They lied.

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When Children with ADHD Explore Gender Identity: A Guide for Parents

gender-questioning child starts with understanding the vocabulary and language of gender and sexuality. Knowing these terms can enable you to speak accurately and respectfully to and about your child regarding their identity.Most of us have grown up believing that all of these components line up “neatly” along culturally-prescribed lines of what’s gender-appropriate — but this is not the case for many people.

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Q: Will I Ever Be a ‘Good Enough’ Mother?

best mom for your children. You have birthed or adopted them, nurtured them, and loved them to the best of your ability.

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Q: Should I Punish (or Ignore) My Teen’s Disrespectful, Snarky Behavior?

behavioral parent training – a therapy designed to improve a child’s behaviors – we always start by drawing the line between normal teenage attitudes and unhealthy behaviors that actually impair family functioning and need to be improved.When the parent-teen relationship gets to this point, the primary focus should be on rebuilding connection and creating positive moments.

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Q: My Child Is Dr. Jekyll at School, Mr. Hyde at Home

Q: “How come my child is defiant at home only, but at school and around other people outside of our family, she is well behaved?”When I see children exhibiting behavior challenges at home, but none of it appears at school, that says to me that they are screaming for scaffolding: They want to know where the parameters are at home around what is tolerated and what is not tolerated. That comes through authoritative parenting.I understand that, for a lot of parents, being authoritative does not come naturally.

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How to Support a Teen with ADHD Who Is Questioning Their Gender

Teens with ADHD pick up on anything that indicates rejection in words, facial expressions, and body language.[Read: How to Build Self Confidence in Teens with ADHD]Gender transitioning takes time, and, for kids who struggle with impulse control, this is especially frustrating. Taylor, a 19-year-old transgender client of mine, recently told me: “It’s frustrating because I’m impatient.

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How Parents Can Facilitate Sex-Ed for Teens with ADHD

middle-school students with ADHD, whose lagging maturity and shaky impulse control put them them at risk for harmful attitudes and behavior. In one Danish study, researchers found that teen pregnancy was significantly more prevalent among teens with ADHD.

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“My Child’s Neurodivergence Is Not a Choice. My Empathy Is.”

depression in middle school. He felt rejected by peers and confused in school, and it made him sad enough to stop doing things he used to find fun. Sometimes, he’d get so sad he would say scary things like he wished he was dead.

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Live Webinar on May 6: Discipline with a Twist: How to Manage Challenging Behavior Problems in Children & Teens with ADHD

Not available May 6? Don’t worry. Register now and we’ll send you the replay link to watch at your convenience.The symptoms of ADHD often lead to behavior problems that make parenting very difficult.

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When Parents Disagree on How to Raise Their Child with ADHD

family conflicts about raising their complex kids. For a host of understandable reasons, parents can disagree on almost everything when it comes to managing ADHD — from decisions about schooling and how to respond to unwanted behaviors to whether to use medication.In my early years of parenting, I also struggled with these challenges.

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3 Clarifying Principles for Raising a Child with ADHD

ADHD is far more than just being inattentive and/or restless. It is a neurodevelopmental disorder of self-regulation that disrupts all seven executive functions.

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How to Heal a Strained Parent-Teenager Relationship

strengthen your relationship with your teen, begin by understanding their true needs and how to properly address them. Taking the time to see the world through their eyes can help you fortify your bonds and reinvigorate family relationships, even during the most unprecedented of times.The idea of “bids” comes from the work of John Gottman, Ph.D., author of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child(#CommissionsEarned) and other best-selling books.

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Live Webinar on April 14: Gender Diversity and Neurodiversity: How to Support a Child, Teen, or Young Adult with ADHD as They Explore Gender

Not available April 14? Don’t worry. Register now and we’ll send you the replay link to watch at your convenience.If every generation of youth finds a way to upend parents’ basic notions of the world, certainly gender is today’s arena for change.

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Q: My Teen Is Increasingly Isolated. How Can I Help Foster Social Connections?

Q: “My son seems much less engaged in his life and with us since the pandemic started. He spends most of his free time in his room on TikTok or playing games on his phone.

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Live Webinar on May 6: Discipline with a Twist: How to Manage Challenging Behavior Problems in Children & Teens with ADHD

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Building Sandcastles In a Tsunami: How to Support Your Child Amid Whirling School Changes

What is it this time? Another distance learning teacher change? A new hybrid learning schedule? Another “We were going to return to full-time, in-person school but that’s not the plan anymore” email?The ever-changing landscape of the pandemic — its peaks and valleys — has wreaked havoc on predictability, routine, and the universal understanding of what “school” looks like.

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“The Wisdom of Free Range Parenting for ADHD Families”

The New Contented Little Baby Book (#CommissionsEarned). The author, Gina Ford, has spent decades advising parents on how to raise babies with an almost military precision.

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The Blessings (and Trials) of Parenting with ADHD

ADHD helps parents guide, celebrate, and empathize with their child — and also how it causes organization, emotions, and schedules to veer off course from time to time. Add your insights into the yin and yang of ADHD parenting in the Comments section below.“Though I was diagnosed at 40, I remember the struggles of my childhood, which helps me to understand, nurture, and motivate my children with ADHD.

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Live Webinar on April 14: Gender Diversity and Neurodiversity: How to Support a Child, Teen, or Young Adult with ADHD Exploring Gender

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Live Webinar on March 11: How to Raise Your Spirited Child

Please Note: This webinar will only occur as a live event. There will be no replay or downloadable slides.When your child has ADHD, life can feel like a constant crisis.

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Live Webinar on February 25: 6 Principles for Raising a Child with ADHD

Not available February 25? Don’t worry. Register now and we’ll send you the replay link to watch at your convenience.There is nothing more rewarding – or challenging – than raising a child diagnosed with ADHD.

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How to Shepherd — Not Carry — Your Child Toward Fulfillment

raise your child with ADHD and the resources you provide.If you understand your part, you can impart essential lessons to your child, all while enjoying this developmental journey as it plays out.

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Live Webinar on February 25: 12 Principles for Raising a Child with ADHD

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“It’s Time To Go!” How to Smooth Transitions and Avoid Meltdowns

ADHD have difficulty moving from one task to another, especially when they have to stop an enjoyable activity. Behavior intervention strategies can help smooth the transitions.What makes a “good” transition? What would you like your child to do when it’s time to move to a new activity? Clearly identifying your objectives and setting attainable short- and long-term goals are the first steps to any behavior change plan.

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Q: How Can I Stay Positive and Avoid Infecting My Kids with Negativity?

Q: “I am a 37-year-old dad working at home at a reduced salary and dealing with strapped finances—and the emotions that go with that. I get frustrated and angry easily these days, but I want to stay positive for my family’s sake.

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I Doubted My Child – Then She Showed Me What It Really Means to Believe in Yourself

ADD.”As the event got closer, I nearly called the organizers to tell them that Riley couldn’t participate. But then, just a few days before the show, she approached me and said, “Mom, I’m done.”[Click to Read: The “Art” of Happiness — and Self-Esteem]No way, I thought.

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“My Daughter’s ADHD Is an Important Chapter in Our Family Story.”

ADHD when she was in high school. Her story unfolds in other blogs I’ve written for ADDitude.

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My ADHD Teen Always Blows Me Off — How Do I Get Through to Her?

Q: “I try to help my 16-year-old daughter with many things — making smart choices about relationships, how to handle a big project at school, whatever. She either rolls her eyes, gets angry, or doesn’t respond to my offers. She resists my help and ignores me. How do I get through to someone who wants nothing to do with me?”

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The Most Obvious Pandemic Parenting Advice You May Not Be Following

Parents around the world are grappling with the same hard truth: There is no playbook for parenting through a global pandemic. Routines are upside down, anxiety is high, emotions tumultuous. For our differently wired children, the dysregulation is often especially marked.

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Never Punish a Child for Bad Behavior Outside Their Control

Most parents are good parents. But if your son or daughter has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, “good” may not be enough. To ensure that your child is happy and well-adjusted now and in the future — and to create a tranquil home environment — you’ve got to be a great parent to a child with ADHD.

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Positive Charge: How to Reinforce Good Behavior

If you’re raising a child who has ADHD, you probably spend a lot of time focusing on his weak points — intentionally or not. There's nothing wrong with trying to work on your child's impulsivity or lack of focus — in fact, it's important for parents to do so. But focusing too intently on your child's shortcomings may be doing a number on his self-esteem. How can you keep him believing in himself while also respecting the rules? Start by using these positive parenting techniques.

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