“Do you want to go to bed now or in five minutes? Five minutes? Ok, do we have an agreement that in five minutes you’ll go to bed no matter what?”Why does this little trick work so effectively?
Because it’s a win-win solution. You’re offering only choices that are okay with you, so you’re happy. She gets to pick one that’s okay with her, so she’s happy. You sidestep the power struggle, because you aren’t making her do something; she is choosing. The child is in charge, within your parameters.
No one likes to be forced to do something. Here, because she chooses, she cooperates.Make them as palatable as possible to the child, but eliminate any options that are unacceptable to you.“We have to leave now.Read more on positivelypositive.com