The Problem With the ‘New Year, New You’ Mindset

“I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect, and I loved you even more.” ~Angelita Lim

Not available March 1? Don’t worry. Register now and we’ll send you the replay link to watch at your convenience.This webinar is Part Two in a series. Part One is available for replay at https://www.additudemag.com/webinar/anger-management-outbursts-adhd-triggers/ADHD brings with it strong emotions — but few tools for managing those emotions in ways that feel good.

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and substance use disorders (SUD) overlap considerably. About a quarter of adults with SUD have ADHD, and individuals with ADHD are three times more likely to develop a SUD.12 What’s more, SUD is often more severe in individuals with ADHD.3Research confirms that ADHD treatment (i.e., stimulant medication) drastically improves symptoms of both conditions and outcomes for patients with ADHD and SUC.

Ting Wong is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with her. She impressed us with her dedication and persistence. She spent most of her career in the corporate world struggling to find herself and her true calling in life. Until she stumbled upon life coaching. She […]

The first time my son lied to me, I took it personally. Even though I knew it would happen one day, I couldn’t help but be worried.Then, I began catching him in more lies and started to wonder, “Is there something wrong?” However, I had to remind myself that kids are humans, and sometimes, humans lie. Now, don’t get me wrong, I wanted to get to the bottom of it immediately, to avoid future lies and problems.

No parent sets out to play favorites with their children. However, because none of us are perfect, there may be a child you are showing favor to without even realizing it.It is normal for a parent to feel a stronger connection to one of their children, but that does not make you a bad parent. However, it’s important that you show your children the same amount of love and care, otherwise your children may become insecure and struggle with themselves.

It’s that time of year again when the world screams, “New year, new you!”Every January, without fail, we are inundated with messages about transforming our apparent less-than-optimal selves into something better. (“Shrink your waistline in 30 days,” and “Power up your mental health with these protein shakes,” read the subject lines in my inbox, to name a few.)I have been trying to create a “new” me for most of my life. The “old” me, according to most, was too quiet, too intense, too awkward, too sensitive, and too focused.

Being a new mom is both an exciting experience and a daunting one. You want what is best for your child, but because you are new to everything, there is so much to learn.Everyone has an opinion, and it can be mind-boggling to know the right route to take. Thankfully, that is where good advice from real-life moms can come in handy.

Now, research is showing more and more the impact of emotional support and the impact on the way we talk to our children. If you find that you are saying any of the following, don’t beat yourself up, just make sure to begin using the better phrases provided instead.I grew up in a time when people did not understand that saying things like “You are fine, ” “Stop crying,” or the old “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!” was emotionally invalidating. When you do this, you are making your child fear their emotions.

Q: “I am decluttering but having a hard time parting with my kids’ artwork, bric-a-brac from my late mother, and other mementos. What should I do? Rent a storage unit, or just live with these items?”A: Heavens! Do not rent a storage unit. This will be cumulatively expensive in both finances and labor (emotional and the “bills-to-pay” variety).When it comes to weeding out nostalgic items, keep in mind these three questions:[Read This Next: The Ultimate Room-by-Room Organization Guide]A former client of mine was holding onto a six-foot roll of linoleum left over from the first house she owned.

An epiphany is a sudden revelation — an “aha” moment — that often strikes after you’ve adopted a new perspective.My goal as an ADHD coach is to help people with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) view their condition differently. When they finally get to me, I know they’ve not yet experienced this “aha” moment because their stories are almost all the same: They’ve tried it all — to no avail — and they’re drowning in strategies for managing their life with ADHD.This is when I can step in to help them reach a crucial epiphany: They’ve been looking at the roots of their ADHD challenges — from procrastination and motivation to prioritization and productivity — all wrong.Here are the most important ADHD insights I’ve collected and shared with my clients over the years to help them separate their symptoms from themselves and reach their goals.Every time we think, we engage our executive functions — a set of cognitive processes that allow us to plan, organize, remember information, and initiate action on a goal.

“Self-reflection is necessary to dig beneath our own layers and visit the inner crevices of our heart and mind to develop an understanding of life.” ~Unknown

When you think of your child’s needs, what comes to mind? While children do have physical needs, like food, clothing, shelter, and exercise, they have emotional needs as well, and those should never be overlooked.While taking care of our children physically by ensuring they have the right nutrition, clothing on their backs, and a warm home to sleep in are all important, it is just as important if not more important to ensure their emotional needs are addressed as well. Think of it this way: we are our children’s emotional support network and emotional coaches. For them to flourish as people, their needs need to be met fully.

Parenting is a complex job, with many roles and responsibilities being placed on the shoulder of the parents. What makes things even more difficult, is trying to know what you should and shouldn’t be doing for your child.In your child’s life, there are decisions that you will have to make for your child, and for good reason, your child is not always able to make wise choices for themselves. In other cases, though, it is an invasion of your child’s boundaries for you to make choices for them.

. Now, for the good news: Although there’s bound to be factors that are beyond your control, feeling more confident about your finances can help you navigate whatever comes your way.What does financial security look like in 2023? We talked with five experts about everything from the economy to the job market to financial markets to find out what to expect.

I have always aimed for raising honest kids. The truth is, that people, and more specifically, kids, lie.That is a harsh truth, we just need to go ahead and get out of the way. So, if you are aiming for perfection here, you are going to end up disappointed.

One of my biggest fears is waking up one day and realizing my whole life has passed before my eyes and that I have missed opportunities. It might sound silly to some, but if you have been there, then you know how very real this fear can be.Due to this fear, I have made it my mission to lead the best life I can lead. Part of this has been trying to not waste the precious time I have been given.

Willpower alone cannot increase productivity in the ADHD brain. Also not helpful: the standard tips, tricks, and strategies designed for a neurotypical person. If you’re searching for effective, ADHD-friendly ways to get things done, look no further than the ADDitude community — and other readers like you who have found winning strategies by trial and error.Recently, we asked ADDitude readers to share their experience with buzz-worthy productivity tools, including brown noise, binaural beats, and bionic reading.

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