“As long as the baby is healthy, then nothing else matters.” My shoulders stiffen, my brow creases, and I inhale sharply every time I hear some variation of this phrase.
Health is important, but when we focus the entire worth of someone’s experience on how healthy they are, we are implicitly demeaning the inherent value of those with less health.
Now I know what you are thinking, “That’s not what I meant! It’s normal to wish for a healthy baby. What’s wrong with you?” “Normal” has never been the friend of the medically disadvantaged, and the second question is more complicated than you may really care to hear.Read more on themighty.com