team player, didn’t have the confidence to say “that looks dangerous, stupid, or way out of my comfort zone,” or were desperately in love with them but hadn’t plucked up the courage to say what you felt. Or maybe you wanted to be liked/loved/appreciated or were Marty McFly and hadn’t learned that just because someone calls you a chicken, it doesn’t make you one.What’s wrong with being nice? There are many reasons why we’re nice and most of the time, it’s a great thing to be.
But did you know that nice people are more likely to earn less money?Did you know that being nice can make you more stressed, less likely to get promoted, more likely to suffer burnout, mentally and physically ill, and even impact your ability to get your to-do list done?I’m sharing three examples that you may recognize. For each, I’ll help you spot the signs that being too nice is a problem, what to do, and examples of what being less nice could do for your health, happiness, success, and salary.A study by Charlice Hurst, Beth Livingston, and Timothy Judge took 9,000 people who entered the labor force in the past decade and interviewed them about their careers, giving personality tests that were then measured against income data.The news isn’t great and even worse for women.
Regardless of their levels of agreeableness, women earned nearly 14% less than men. Agreeable men earned an average of $7,000 (£4,490) less than their disagreeable peers.
So, do you need to be a scumbag to do well at work?The good news is that you don’t need to ditch the niceness. You just need to control it and understand how it impacts your performance and the way people perceive you.For instance, a client who had worked hard in their career never got considered for a
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