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4 Behaviors That Reveal Childhood Abandonment

Have you ever lost someone close to you? Do you describe yourself as a ‘people pleaser?’ Do you constantly worry someone is going to leave or betray you? If you can relate to the statements above, you may be experiencing childhood abandonment issues. Depending on the severity, these issues happen when people experience unhealthy, intense fears of losing people, places, or things in their life. They always fear they will experience being abandoned again.

It is possible they can manifest at any point in your life, but usually, they begin during childhood.We usually picture traditional abuse coming from parents or caregivers when we think of childhood abandonment. They can stem from that, but any relationship could be the root cause of abandonment issues. There are several reasons why someone may fear being abandoned and avoid being rejected or hurt.

It doesn’t only point to a specific event; it can be born from a pattern of events. Children who lose someone close to them may grow up fearing they will lose the people they care for. These issues are primarily created based on childhood trauma and neglect.

When a parent or caregiver denies their child the freedom to express themselves, places stress and pressure on their daily lives, dismisses their feelings, neglects them, and even treats them like a friend or peer rather than a child can contribute to potential abandonment issues.  ADVERTISEMENT When a child’s physical, mental, and emotional needs are unmet, they develop an insecure attachment style, which John Bowlby first proposed in 1969. Mary Ainsworth expanded on this work in the 1970s. They suggested that attachment styles often emerge in early childhood development stages from the relationships with their parents or

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