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This Form of Discipline Will Completely Reshape How You Punish Your Kids

One of the most commonly asked questions of any parent is “what is the best discipline technique that works?” When most of us think about discipline, we think of things like time out, spankings, or ‘grounding,’ however, these techniques do not work and in many cases, can do the opposite of what you are aiming for.So, what is the best form of discipline? First and foremost, let us get out of the way: discipline does not mean punishment. Discipline is how we instill knowledge into our kids, by helping them to understand the difference between what is right and what is wrong.

When you hit your child, you aren’t teaching them anything. Even the American Pediatric Association has come out and stated that corporal punishment is not only ineffective, but can also be quite damaging.Joan Durrant, Ph.D.

is a parenting expert who has introduced Positive Discipline for Everyday Parenting. This framework she has built works to help parents move through more positive parenting by replacing rewards and punishment with emotional regulation, in both parent and child.Rather than punishing a child for having difficult emotions, this form of discipline works to help both parent and child to understand their emotions and feelings, so problem-solving can be tackled as a team.

To do this, parents are supposed to emotionally coach their kids, teaching them how to acknowledge their emotions, so they can understand how they are reacting to them and how they should react to them.When speaking with Fatherly HQ, Durrant explained that an example of this is when your child is throwing a tantrum. You could ignore your child, you could spank them, or you could put them in the corner.

However, none of these addresses the issue. Instead of being

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