My partner and I called them “orphan” Thanksgivings and Christmas dinners. Many of us were abandoned and ostracized by our given family because of trauma, sexual orientation, or addiction.
We all deserved somewhere to land on a holiday, and we made sure everyone felt like family. What led to me not being associated with family at the holidays was when I spoke the truth about my life to my family and they chose to abandon me.
Some did not know what to do. Did not know if they should choose sides, so they did nothing, basically turning their backs on me.