idea found in Buddhist cultures.Most people, especially those who have experienced abuse, have a negative view of themselves when going through tough times.
People believe that they should smile through the pain and get over it. That mentality can be very harmful, especially for victims of abuse.
It doesn’t allow you to acknowledge that the pain you are feeling is valid. On the other hand, self-kindness is based on the idea that whatever you are feeling is legitimate and shouldn’t be ignored.