Codependency is a huge buzzword nowadays. Everywhere you turn there are people preaching about overcoming codependency. I agree that codependency isn’t healthy; I also understand why it is so easy to fall into that cycle, and why it is so difficult to overcome.
For many, codependency was normal for us growing up. If you had a parent or adult in your life that you took care of (as opposed to the other way around), you learned your happiness and safety were dependent on the other person’s happiness.
There were no boundaries and your feelings were ignored or not even verbalized. You learned your well-being and safety was completely contingent on the well-being of someone else.
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