research by Ethan Kross and Ozlem Ayduk, analyzing the situation as if it happened to someone else instead of yourself can make it easier for you to objectively look at the situation without getting too caught up in the negative emotions that accompanied the failure.
This is something the researchers refer to as “self-distancing.”Imagine that someone close to you, such as a sibling or a very close friend, made a mistake that cost you a major business deal or led to the loss of money.
While you’d certainly be cross with them, you’d also understand that no one is perfect and that everyone makes mistakes sometimes.
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