11 Things People Wish They Were Actually Told After Someone Dies

themighty.com:

Loss sucks. The only thing that can hurt more than death though, are the trite cliches people tend to throw at you right after you’ve experienced loss — phrases such as, “I’m sorry for your loss,” or “They’re in a better place now.”  For some, those words are helpful.

However, for others, it’s the exact opposite. We asked the Mighty community what they wish someone said to them after loss, instead of those worn-out cliches.

This is what they had to say: Honesty is the best policy with grief. “I know there’s nothing I can say that will make this better, but I want you to know that I’m here for you as much as I can be.” — Christa M. “I don’t know what to say, but you know I’m heartbroken for you” — Jill G. “I cannot possibly relate but I am here to be present for you.” — Maya L. Emotional validation is always needed when someone dies. “What I wish someone had told me when someone passed was that it’s okay to feel conflicted with the person’s death and my feelings about it.